#holding #stillness #sacredtouch #sacredmassage #healingtouch Tag

Sexual Awakening, Life Awakening

Recently I've been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, on sexual awakening. This isn't something new, I've been doing this for a long time, and over time the elements of this...

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Penetration of the Heart

The way most people have penetrative sex is what we call friction sex. That's exactly what it is, skin rubbing against skin. We generally do it harder and faster as the sensation builds to have...

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The Limitless Conversation of Touch

Touch is a language That goes deeper than words It's the language of the body That has a knowing That speaks to the heart To the places deep within us Learning to touch, to massage, is one of...

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Hey Man, Learn to Soften

I work a lot with men with 'performance' issues. And that's a big part of the problem. It's not a performance. It's not a race, a competition, an achievement. It's not something you have to...

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Intimacy Bypass

I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...

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She’d Like You to Know

Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...

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Heart – Centered Erotic Touch

The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...

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Soft Sex

So often when we hear the term soft sex we think about a soft Lingam. That can be such a beautiful experience and has some amazing possibilities. I'd like to share something different with you...

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Divine Desire

I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...

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The (Yoni) Freedom to Feel

The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...

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Meet Yourself in Pleasure

In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...

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The Intimacy of Being

Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...

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Erotic Humility

This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....

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My Relationship With My Yoni

On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...

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Yoni Kiss

I offer you my mouth That you may experience your pleasure I offer you my lips, my tongue, my teeth That you may experience your Yoni In sensation, in feeling, in energy, in delight, in celebration I offer you...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey

Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...

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Tears of Orgasm

We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...

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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing

Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...

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One Breath of Pleasure

There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...

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Making Love With Life and Yoga

I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...

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This Sensual Coffee of Presence

The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...

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The Nurtured C***

For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...

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Cl-itoral Pulsations

Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...

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The Subtle Power of Stillness

TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...

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Tears on my Chest

Tears on my chest Sacred tears. I sat with a man in Yab-Yum, holding him, naked chest to naked chest, heart to heart. We sat in stillness and breathed, coming into our bodies, softening into each...

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Home

The longing for love is the longing to belong To know that have a home in the arms that hold you With the heart that beats alongside yours In the rhythm of breath With eyes that see...

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Penetration, Heart to Heart

At the opening of her Yoni, pause. Before you enter her, pause. Be still, so still. And so much happens in this stillness, this moment of quiet. In this moment, this stillness, there's a listening to...

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Healers and Lovers

I think we need more lovers than healers. We need more people to hold a space for us to feel loved in, simply loved. And this is where the healing happens. It's in the space...

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Energy Sex

Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me. Every kiss, every touch, energy. I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine. Every...

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Holding the Place to be Met

From a place in my heart comes the ancient and sacred practice of holding, of resting my hands on your body. In stillness, deep stillness. In reverence. In love. For over 25 years I've been...

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