Tag: intention

The Dance of Yoni Massage

Look into her eyes.
Breathe.
Just breathe.
There are no thoughts in this moment.
There is the opening to love.
Breathe into your heart.
Just breathe.

The Massage of Making Love

Can you touch this body as if you were making love?
Not making love as most of our world sees it.
Making Love.
Your hands expressing your heart.
Taking care.
Each movement gentle, slow, deep.
Making Love with your touch.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 19

I was looking through a Dropbox folder that had some pictures from a shoot we did a few years ago.
There were some pictures of a double massage, two people massaging one person, four hands on a body.

It’s a beautiful experience that heightens the sensations, sometimes radically. The Erotic aspect of it can be incredible. Four hands make so much more stimulation possible, so many places can be touched at the same time.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 18

One of the biggest blockages to experiencing and exploring the world of erotic massage is the story.
The story is deeply ingrained and impacts on women more than men.
It’s a story that reflects the fullness of the story of sexuality and pleasure.

The story is in the past.
It’s rooted in judgement, inhibition, guilt and shame.
It’s religious, it’s political and it keeps us disconnected from the possibilities of pleasure.
It keeps us trapped in a system that represses sexuality and pleasure.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 17

We live in a world obsessed with measuring things, with the rightness or wrongness of so many aspects of life based on measurement.
We judge people, give them value by how much they have.
This obsession has led to an incredibly warped view of what normal is.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 16

I had a beautiful experience last week, I taught a sensual massage lesson to a couple in their seventies who have been married for 52 years.
It’s not the first time people this age have come to a workshop or retreat, and it is beautiful every time it happens.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 15

One of the most beautiful, and most powerful, gifts that an Erotic Massage experience gives us, is the gift of receiving.

For so many women sex and pleasure come with many unstated rules and beliefs. There are many unwritten expectations that have not changed in a long time. Some of the deepest of these are that women’s pleasure is secondary, that pleasure is transactional and that reciprocation is a line with great unfairness.

Touch is a language, a communication that often goes deeper than words.
It tells of an authenticity that you feel deep inside, especially when that touch is from the heart.
The hands that touch you, hold you, caress you, stroke you, acknowledge your body.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 14

One of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful, and one of the most healing ways of being seen and acknowledged is through touch.

Touch is a language, a communication that often goes deeper than words.
It tells of an authenticity that you feel deep inside, especially when that touch is from the heart.
The hands that touch you, hold you, caress you, stroke you, acknowledge your body.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 13

There’s an interesting idea about healing, and life.
For so long we’ve been convinced that it’s about learning, about lessons, about fixing the problems, about diagnosing, putting it into a box with labels.
And then we’ll understand it.
And then we’ll know what to do with it, about it.

The 4 Secrets of Sensation

As a sex educator and healer, a workshop facilitator and massage teacher there’s a question I get asked lots, as I’m sure many of my colleagues do.

How do we have better sex?
Now what better sex actually is is its own discussion.
But there are 4 secrets that will change the way you have sex and deepen the experience, the intimacy and sensation.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 12

I was recently asked why I use the word ‘erotic’ and not ‘tantric’.

Every word has connotations, meanings, which are different in different parts of the world.
They’re also different internally, meaning different things to us individually. And that can change over time, and with the experiences we have, and as our understanding of who we are and what we do, how we express ourselves changes.

The Love Sex Expo

I spent four days last week at The Love Sex Expo in Pretoria, South Africa.

I gave 13 presentations and 8 massage demonstrations.

I spoke to so many people at my stand where we were selling the range of DVD’s I’ve produced, talking to people about workshops and retreats.

And healing.

Talking to people about healing.

And listening.

Listening to their stories, their issues.

Come Home

Come Home

Come home.

Come home to yourself.

Come home to your body, to your heart.

Come home to feeling, your feelings, your sensations,your emotions.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 11

A while ago I was sitting with some colleagues, facilitators in different fields.
One of them said to me ‘I wish I was brave enough to attend one of your workshops.’
I was really surprised at that. These were people who do some pretty deep work.
But sexuality and pleasure are a different world, especially our own.

The Power of Play

Exploring a different story of our sexuality I come to an understanding of the power of playfulness…

Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality…

Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind…

Makers of Love

During some deep discuss with me lover we’ve spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’…

A Different Story

Opening is expansion, Softness is welcoming, Gentleness is tender…

A World of Healers

Imagine if we lived in a world of healers. The healers who say that I am in the world and the world is within me…

The Pleasure Connection

Over time I’ve worked with so many people, men and women, who have disconnected themselves…

Sexpectations

Have you really thought about what YOU expect from sex?

Making More Love

The sexual paradigm that so much of the Western world lives with is essentially a Porn – based model…

Heart Work

The deeper I go into sexuality, the deeper I go into the heart…

Touch

‘Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain’. C G Jung

A Heart Life

I don’t want to do shallow, I don’t want to do mediocre…

Better Sex, Heart Sex

A while ago someone who comes to a lot of my workshops said something that struck a chord within me…

The Heart of Release

For so long we thought that our reaction to stress had two expressions, fight or flight, or something along that spectrum…

Be A Human of Emotions

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about positive, about being positive, about negative and positive emotions…

Coming Home

I stood in the sun and felt it enter me, felt its warmth…

Conscious Quiet

Come and let us sit in the quiet, in the conscious quiet…

Massage and Touch

On the Sensual Massage retreat last weekend someone asked a fascinating question, ‘What’s the difference between massage and touch?’