The Heart of Male Sexuality
November 17, 2021
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We have, us men, these Hearts. We have this energy of connection. We have this space to hold you in. We have this fire to heat you in. We have this roar to appreciate you...
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Precious Tears
November 14, 2021
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There have been a lot of tears this week. My tears, men's tears, women's tears. Tears of gratitude and celebration. Tears of hurt. Tears of what's been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom...
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I Have Become (Un)Comfortably Numb
November 10, 2021
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We're taught, from the time we're small, not to feel too much, too deeply. Or rather, we're not taught, to feel, to be with our emotions, to digest them, to learn from them. It's a...
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The Divine Possibility of Yoni Opening
November 7, 2021
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At the moment many women are reaching out with a desire to have deeper, more fulfilling experiences. For some women it's about being able to have sex without pain. For some women it's about having...
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The Practice of Sensual Awareness
October 31, 2021
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We use the word Sensuality in a variety of ways. We use it connected to sex, as the foreplay, the lead up to sex. We use it connected to experiences of touch, of sensation. We...
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A Neck Nuzzle
October 27, 2021
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I would like to share something with you that is so delicious, so simple. And like a lot of simple things in the world of sensuality there is such depth, such subtlety and such nuance...
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The Space of Male Pleasure Possibility
October 24, 2021
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In many of the workshops and lessons and experiences I've been facilitating lately, and over all the time I've been teaching, I've seen something in many men. Regardless of what the workshop or experience is...
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The Flow of Desire, Naturally
October 17, 2021
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Connection. Flow. Natural flow. An invitation that opens in space. Possibility. For something to emerge, arise, from the unknown. ...
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The Penetration of Fire
October 14, 2021
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There's an art of penetration that can deepen the experience incredibly for both partners. It's more about energy. About exploring sensation. About an intimacy, which is often lacking in friction sex. About the portal the energy...
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Sexual Awakening, Life Awakening
October 11, 2021
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Recently I've been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, on sexual awakening. This isn't something new, I've been doing this for a long time, and over time the elements of this...
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Penetration of the Heart
October 6, 2021
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The way most people have penetrative sex is what we call friction sex. That's exactly what it is, skin rubbing against skin. We generally do it harder and faster as the sensation builds to have...
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The Limitless Conversation of Touch
October 3, 2021
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Touch is a language That goes deeper than words It's the language of the body That has a knowing That speaks to the heart To the places deep within us Learning to touch, to massage, is one of...
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Hey Man, Learn to Soften
September 29, 2021
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I work a lot with men with 'performance' issues. And that's a big part of the problem. It's not a performance. It's not a race, a competition, an achievement. It's not something you have to...
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Intimacy Bypass
September 26, 2021
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I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...
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Important Sexual Words, in a Clitoral Context
September 22, 2021
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I’d like to share some really important sexual words with you, and then put them in a specific context and experience. Before you get all excited these may not be the words you’re expecting, and they...
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She’d Like You to Know
September 19, 2021
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Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...
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Heart – Centered Erotic Touch
September 15, 2021
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The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...
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Divine Desire
September 7, 2021
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I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...
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The (Yoni) Freedom to Feel
September 1, 2021
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The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...
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Meet Yourself in Pleasure
August 29, 2021
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In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...
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The Intimacy of Being
August 25, 2021
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Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...
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Erotic Humility
August 22, 2021
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This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....
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Healing Within Ourselves, Or Maybe I Don’t Need to be Fixed
August 18, 2021
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I've been working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for a long time, teaching and doing one-on-one. I love the journeys I share because of the depth we go to. That's really what interests me,...
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My Relationship With My Yoni
August 15, 2021
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On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...
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Threesome, Sensual, Intimate, Delicious
July 28, 2021
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A while ago I had a 3-way touch experience that was so beautiful, so sensual, so intimate. It was deeply arousing, with no penetration, no orgasm. It was just hands flowing over skin, bodies touching,...
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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!
July 25, 2021
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Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...
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YoniLIngam in the Body
July 21, 2021
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Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...
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For Whom do we Heal?
July 18, 2021
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Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...
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What Else is There?
July 14, 2021
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The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...
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My Genital Relationship
July 11, 2021
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Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...
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Coffee and Rope
July 6, 2021
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Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...
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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey
July 4, 2021
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Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...
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Tears of Orgasm
June 30, 2021
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We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...
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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing
June 26, 2021
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Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...
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One Breath of Pleasure
June 23, 2021
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There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...
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Making Love With Life and Yoga
June 20, 2021
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I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...
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This Sensual Coffee of Presence
June 16, 2021
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The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...
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The Nurtured C***
June 13, 2021
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For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...
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Cl-itoral Pulsations
June 9, 2021
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Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...
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The Subtle Power of Stillness
June 6, 2021
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TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...
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Tears on my Chest
June 6, 2021
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Tears on my chest Sacred tears. I sat with a man in Yab-Yum, holding him, naked chest to naked chest, heart to heart. We sat in stillness and breathed, coming into our bodies, softening into each...
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Penetration, Heart to Heart
May 30, 2021
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At the opening of her Yoni, pause. Before you enter her, pause. Be still, so still. And so much happens in this stillness, this moment of quiet. In this moment, this stillness, there's a listening to...
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From Hard and Tight to Soft and Open
May 26, 2021
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I was thinking about how much of our sexual experience is in the category of hard and tight. Hard cocks, tight vaginas. Hard and tight is a space of pressure, a space of performance, a...
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Healers and Lovers
May 23, 2021
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I think we need more lovers than healers. We need more people to hold a space for us to feel loved in, simply loved. And this is where the healing happens. It's in the space...
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Energy Sex
May 20, 2021
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Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me. Every kiss, every touch, energy. I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine. Every...
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Holding the Place to be Met
May 16, 2021
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From a place in my heart comes the ancient and sacred practice of holding, of resting my hands on your body. In stillness, deep stillness. In reverence. In love. For over 25 years I've been...
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