Stay In Your Body
Our body is an intelligence, a consciousness, an awareness.
It’s in the body and it is the body.
To be with it, to experience it, to feel it, we need to learn to stay in the body.
We need to establish a relationship, a connection with our body.
It’s an intimacy with our body, an intimacy beyond words, beyond thought, beyond the mind.
It’s a quiet knowing.
Yoni Healing
Yoni Healing is slow, so slow.
It’s gentle, so gentle.
It’s allowing, not making, not forcing, not rushing.
It’s allowing your body to release, to soften.
To release the past.
My Connected Male Body
The relationship we have, with our genitals is not conscious, at best it’s functional, and deeper than that it’s contractive, it’s fearful with comparison, with a level of performance, with a lack of information and knowledge. There’s no connection with our hearts, and what that energy represents.
This Conscious Kiss
For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it’s something they have to do to get to the next step.
Conscious Kissing is its own incredible moment of being. There is nothing else other than the delicious sensation, the feeling, the taste of our mouths.
Conscious Receiving
There’s an element of touch that I don’t think we’re always aware of because we focus so much on the giving of touch.
Receiving touch.
Consciously Receiving your lover’s touch.
Sensual Bondage Massage
It’s a touch experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, using a range of sensations.
It’s a place where sensation and emotion come together.
It’s an exploration of the possibilities of sensation, from the subtle, oh so subtle, to a little firmer, to the sting of something that sends waves throughout your entire body.
The Best Time
When we’re present, when we’re in this moment, when we’re connected to ourselves, when we’re open, when we’re in a space of intimacy, with ourselves, more than anything else, this moment is the best there is.
And it’s never about comparing anything.
This moment is everything.
The Heart Touch
When I started teaching The Heart Touch the way I taught massage changed so much.
Sensual Curiosity
Curiosity is one of the most important elements of vitality. It helps keep us interested and interesting.
In a relationship it’s one of the qualities that contribute to fulfillment.
Slow Union
There’s a practice I teach called Slow Union.
Over time this practice reveals almost endless gifts to us as it releases that which prevents us going deep into pleasure and the myriad, mystical, magical gifts we find there.
Hey Man, It’s In The Connection!
Over the past while more and more men have been coming to learn, heal and explore, themselves and their sexuality.
The Endless Touch
One of the most beautiful things about learning Sensual Massage, Heart Massage, Healing Massage, is the endless journey of discovery it offers.
TOUCH AS A TEACHER
It’s often been said that the receiving is in the giving.
This is showing to be so true in the learning of Healing Massage.
I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.
It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.
Healing Men
It’s easy for me to talk about the fears that many men have around their sexuality, about the sexual problems they have, the impact these have on their emotional state, their relationships and lives.
I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.
It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.
Sexual Healing, The Paths of Possibility
I sat in my studio this morning with a client, listening to her sexual story, her desire to have the experiences she knew were there, to feel the things she knew were possible.
I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.
It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.
Taoist Sexual Rhythm
One of the deepest practices that I offer and teach is Taoist Sexual Energy Massage.
It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.
Words on My Lover’s Body
If you wrote a poem on your lover’s body, what would it say?
Even your imaginary lover, the lover that you would like to have, the lover you dream about.
Where on their body would you write it?
The Shifting Sands of Perception
Last week in my practice there were some amazing realizations that came through shifting perspectives and asking different questions.
Asking different questions allows us to see things differently. When we can see things differently we can do things differently.
And one of the most powerful understandings from this is the power of questions, to be more engaged, more curious, more open.
Taking It Deep Into The Body
‘I just lay there and cried. In 47 years I had never been touched so gently. For 47 years my body, and my Yoni, a new word for me, as there were so many new things on this journey, had never been touched so gently.
Disneyland and The Holy Grail
So many of us are looking for the Disneyland of sex, love and pleasure. We think that’s where it is, the ultimate.
It’s like a roller-coaster or ghost-train. It’s a thrill. A quick thrill. There are some laughs. Your stomach hits your throat. There’s an adrenaline rush. Blood rushing through your body. There are some screams. You’re holding on really tight, muscles clenched.
Tell Me Something Different!
Most of my work is in the field of Conscious Sexuality and Relationships, which means that that’s what most people come and see me for, and that’s where most journeys start.
However, as our sexuality doesn’t happen in a vacuum, rather in the fullness of the context of our lives, as do our relationships, healing and growth journeys need to be in the same context.
Heart-Centered Healing
There’s a model of healing I keep coming back to. It’s challenging because it challenges the way we look at healing.
It’s not about fixing the problem.
And that’s the problem.
We’ve been convinced we have to fix the problem, whatever it is.
How about if we didn’t?
How about if there was another way?
Sitting With Love
I sat alone in the night and I asked Love to come and sit with me.
I know Love in all its exquisite savagery, in all its terrible beauty.
I know the gentleness and tenderness of Love, its warmth and safety.
I know the home that Love brings, the belonging.
The Intention To Love
Everything we do has an intention.
For most of us, in most of life, we’re not conscious of this. We do what we do out of habit, patterning and conditioning.
As we grow and become more conscious, we become aware of the power of intention.
Quiet Lingam, A Man Receiving
Working with the body to change the pattern.
For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard.
The Choice For Pleasure
It’s about biting into this strange offering of our nature and relishing it, savoring it, letting it run down our chins and over our bodies.
You Think You Have Time
We think we have time.
We don’t.
The people in our lives are there, and then they’re not. Some will be for a lifetime, some will be for a day. For so many reasons.
Sexual Healing
There is a way of making love that is deeply healing. It has a breath, a deep, gentle breath. It’s in the element of presence. It’s in the intention of intimacy, of love.
A Celebration of Men
It was so beautiful to share the space with these men, to see how they allowed themselves to connect with each other, to hold and support each other, literally and metaphorically, to engage with the processes with open hearts,
The Many Faces, and Bodies, of Pleasure
We all have a Pleasure Being within us. And to many of us this wondrous aspect of ourselves is a stranger.
Sexuality, Life, Healing
Our sexuality is in the context of our lives.
It’s not, as many people think, and the way they express it, in a little box that they take out in very specific circumstances and use it, then put it away again.
Expectations and Possibilities
How much of what we feel during sex, during touch, during pleasure is what we expect to feel?
And because we expect it to feel that way, that’s what we feel.
Making Love As A Meditation
When we go to the body we’re creating a quietness, a stillness for the mind to begin its inward journey…
Beyond Valentine’s Day
I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. And it still has some amazing possibilities…
Patterns and Self-Pleasuring
I’m preparing for the Conscious Self-Pleasuring Webinar on Wednesday, and I’m think about all the things I’d like to share with you, there’s so much…
Yoni So Slowly
There is an expression of Yoni Massage that us slow, so slow at times that there are no movements, no moving, simply holding. ..
Open Men
”The thing that stands out for me of these experiences is that it is such an amazing safe space full of kindness.”
The Craziness of Healing
The healing journey is crazy!
It’s an inner journey, a deep journey that takes you to places within yourself that on time will question everything you know, everything you think, and everything you think you know.
Why Should I Go To A Sex Workshop
‘Why should I come to a sex workshop?’
Someone asked me this question yesterday, they’re thinking about coming to some of the workshops I’m teaching in Cape Town…
Sacred Yoni
Yoni
She is sacred
Approach her with reverence
Look at her beauty with awe
Her folds, her petals
Fleshflower of the Goddess
THE SUBLIME STATE OF MELTING PLEASURE
Melting Pleasure is going into a deep state of sexual experience. It allows your sexual energy to flow through your entire body, to connect you in a space of intimacy to yourself, to your beloved…
Sleeping Together
We have a lot of euphemisms for sex. The most popular one is ‘they slept together’. As I understand it, there’s a difference, a big difference between having sex and sleeping.
The Angry Heart
The angry heart cannot love, The angry heart cannot open…
Masturbation as Meditation
Last week I shared a link to a TED Talk, Masturbation is The New Meditation…
Love Matters
I was watching a talk on YouTube recently and there was something in the talk that many of us have seen. It was an image of the universe…
Here is the Place
Here is the place where we come together, you and I…
Heart Arousal
When your arousal is from your heart everything changes…
Living Consciously
It’s f*****g difficult to get up every morning and live consciously…
The Deepening Story Of Men
In looking at a different story for sexuality I come to experiences I’ve shared with many men…
Being Orgasmic
At some point ‘An Orgasm’, having ‘An Orgasm’, achieving ‘An Orgasm’ became The Thing. This was the benchmark by which sexual experiences were measured…
