The Intention To Love

Everything we do has an intention.
For most of us, in most of life, we’re not conscious of this. We do what we do out of habit, patterning and conditioning.
As we grow and become more conscious, we become aware of the power of intention.

The Choice For Pleasure

It’s about biting into this strange offering of our nature and relishing it, savoring it, letting it run down our chins and over our bodies.

You Think You Have Time

We think we have time.
We don’t.
The people in our lives are there, and then they’re not. Some will be for a lifetime, some will be for a day. For so many reasons.

Sexual Healing

There is a way of making love that is deeply healing. It has a breath, a deep, gentle breath. It’s in the element of presence. It’s in the intention of intimacy, of love.

A Celebration of Men

It was so beautiful to share the space with these men, to see how they allowed themselves to connect with each other, to hold and support each other, literally and metaphorically, to engage with the processes with open hearts,

Sexuality, Life, Healing

Our sexuality is in the context of our lives.

It’s not, as many people think, and the way they express it, in a little box that they take out in very specific circumstances and use it, then put it away again.

Expectations and Possibilities

How much of what we feel during sex, during touch, during pleasure is what we expect to feel?
And because we expect it to feel that way, that’s what we feel.

Making Love As A Meditation

When we go to the body we’re creating a quietness, a stillness for the mind to begin its inward journey…

Patterns and Self-Pleasuring

I’m preparing for the Conscious Self-Pleasuring Webinar on Wednesday, and I’m think about all the things I’d like to share with you, there’s so much…

Yoni So Slowly

There is an expression of Yoni Massage that us slow, so slow at times that there are no movements, no moving, simply holding. ..

Open Men

”The thing that stands out for me of these experiences is that it is such an amazing safe space full of kindness.”

The Craziness of Healing

The healing journey is crazy!
It’s an inner journey, a deep journey that takes you to places within yourself that on time will question everything you know, everything you think, and everything you think you know.

Why Should I Go To A Sex Workshop

‘Why should I come to a sex workshop?’

Someone asked me this question yesterday, they’re thinking about coming to some of the workshops I’m teaching in Cape Town…

Sacred Yoni

She is sacred
Approach her with reverence
Look at her beauty with awe
Her folds, her petals
Fleshflower of the Goddess

Melting Pleasure

Melting Pleasure is going into a deep state of sexual experience. It allows your sexual energy to flow through your entire body, to connect you in a space of intimacy to yourself, to your beloved…

Sleeping Together

We have a lot of euphemisms for sex. The most popular one is ‘they slept together’. As I understand it, there’s a difference, a big difference between having sex and sleeping.

The Angry Heart

The angry heart cannot love, The angry heart cannot open…

Love Matters

I was watching a talk on YouTube recently and there was something in the talk that many of us have seen. It was an image of the universe…

Heart Arousal

When your arousal is from your heart everything changes…

Living Consciously

It’s f*****g difficult to get up every morning and live consciously…

Being Orgasmic

At some point ‘An Orgasm’, having ‘An Orgasm’, achieving ‘An Orgasm’ became The Thing. This was the benchmark by which sexual experiences were measured…

Sexual Exploration

Lately I’ve received a lot of questions from people want to explore different sexual things…

Touch This Body

Touch this body in prayer, Touch this body in worship, For this is sacred ground…

The Power of Play

Exploring a different story of our sexuality I come to an understanding of the power of playfulness…

Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality…

Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind…

Makers of Love

During some deep discuss with me lover we’ve spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’…

A Different Story

Opening is expansion, Softness is welcoming, Gentleness is tender…

A World of Healers

Imagine if we lived in a world of healers. The healers who say that I am in the world and the world is within me…

The Pleasure Connection

Over time I’ve worked with so many people, men and women, who have disconnected themselves…


Have you really thought about what YOU expect from sex?

Making More Love

The sexual paradigm that so much of the Western world lives with is essentially a Porn – based model…

Heart Work

The deeper I go into sexuality, the deeper I go into the heart…


‘Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain’. C G Jung