The Intention To Love
Everything we do has an intention.
For most of us, in most of life, we’re not conscious of this. We do what we do out of habit, patterning and conditioning.
As we grow and become more conscious, we become aware of the power of intention.
Quiet Lingam, A Man Receiving
Working with the body to change the pattern.
For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard.
The Choice For Pleasure
It’s about biting into this strange offering of our nature and relishing it, savoring it, letting it run down our chins and over our bodies.
You Think You Have Time
We think we have time.
We don’t.
The people in our lives are there, and then they’re not. Some will be for a lifetime, some will be for a day. For so many reasons.
Sexual Healing
There is a way of making love that is deeply healing. It has a breath, a deep, gentle breath. It’s in the element of presence. It’s in the intention of intimacy, of love.
A Celebration of Men
It was so beautiful to share the space with these men, to see how they allowed themselves to connect with each other, to hold and support each other, literally and metaphorically, to engage with the processes with open hearts,
The Many Faces, and Bodies, of Pleasure
We all have a Pleasure Being within us. And to many of us this wondrous aspect of ourselves is a stranger.
Sexuality, Life, Healing
Our sexuality is in the context of our lives.
It’s not, as many people think, and the way they express it, in a little box that they take out in very specific circumstances and use it, then put it away again.
Expectations and Possibilities
How much of what we feel during sex, during touch, during pleasure is what we expect to feel?
And because we expect it to feel that way, that’s what we feel.
Making Love As A Meditation
When we go to the body we’re creating a quietness, a stillness for the mind to begin its inward journey…
Beyond Valentine’s Day
I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. And it still has some amazing possibilities…
Patterns and Self-Pleasuring
I’m preparing for the Conscious Self-Pleasuring Webinar on Wednesday, and I’m think about all the things I’d like to share with you, there’s so much…
Yoni So Slowly
There is an expression of Yoni Massage that us slow, so slow at times that there are no movements, no moving, simply holding. ..
Open Men
”The thing that stands out for me of these experiences is that it is such an amazing safe space full of kindness.”
The Craziness of Healing
The healing journey is crazy!
It’s an inner journey, a deep journey that takes you to places within yourself that on time will question everything you know, everything you think, and everything you think you know.
Why Should I Go To A Sex Workshop
‘Why should I come to a sex workshop?’
Someone asked me this question yesterday, they’re thinking about coming to some of the workshops I’m teaching in Cape Town…
Sacred Yoni
Yoni
She is sacred
Approach her with reverence
Look at her beauty with awe
Her folds, her petals
Fleshflower of the Goddess
THE SUBLIME STATE OF MELTING PLEASURE
Melting Pleasure is going into a deep state of sexual experience. It allows your sexual energy to flow through your entire body, to connect you in a space of intimacy to yourself, to your beloved…
Sleeping Together
We have a lot of euphemisms for sex. The most popular one is ‘they slept together’. As I understand it, there’s a difference, a big difference between having sex and sleeping.
The Angry Heart
The angry heart cannot love, The angry heart cannot open…
Masturbation as Meditation
Last week I shared a link to a TED Talk, Masturbation is The New Meditation…
Love Matters
I was watching a talk on YouTube recently and there was something in the talk that many of us have seen. It was an image of the universe…
Here is the Place
Here is the place where we come together, you and I…
Heart Arousal
When your arousal is from your heart everything changes…
Living Consciously
It’s f*****g difficult to get up every morning and live consciously…
The Deepening Story Of Men
In looking at a different story for sexuality I come to experiences I’ve shared with many men…
Being Orgasmic
At some point ‘An Orgasm’, having ‘An Orgasm’, achieving ‘An Orgasm’ became The Thing. This was the benchmark by which sexual experiences were measured…
Sexual Exploration
Lately I’ve received a lot of questions from people want to explore different sexual things…
Some Thoughts on Healing
I’d like to share some thoughts on healing with you…
Touch This Body
Touch this body in prayer, Touch this body in worship, For this is sacred ground…
The Power of Play
Exploring a different story of our sexuality I come to an understanding of the power of playfulness…
Men Going Deeper
Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality…
Men’s Story
As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind…
Makers of Love
During some deep discuss with me lover we’ve spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’…
A Different Story
Opening is expansion, Softness is welcoming, Gentleness is tender…
Stress and Sex, A New Possibility
We all know, and are told more and more every day, of the impact of stress…
A World of Healers
Imagine if we lived in a world of healers. The healers who say that I am in the world and the world is within me…
The Pleasure Connection
Over time I’ve worked with so many people, men and women, who have disconnected themselves…
An Erotic Possibility
I’d like to share an erotic possibility with you, with thanks to my lover…
Miracles and Magic
So many people are looking for miracles and magic…
Sexpectations
Have you really thought about what YOU expect from sex?
In Service Of The Heart
If I spent some time every day connecting to my heart…
Natural Connection
Much of healing is about connection…
Quiet Lingam, The Gentle Love
It’s an energy penetration, it’s a heart penetration, it’s gentle, it’s soft, it’s slow…
Making More Love
The sexual paradigm that so much of the Western world lives with is essentially a Porn – based model…
Heart Work
The deeper I go into sexuality, the deeper I go into the heart…
The Healing Of The Deep Erotic Space
The Deep Erotic Space is an experience of energy, sexual energy, vitality, life-force…
Changing Ourselves, Changing Our World
Monsters abound in our world. They always have, they always will…
Touch
‘Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain’. C G Jung
Lessons in Sacred Sex 2
One night I asked her how many lovers she’d had…
